“Why is the term “friend zone” so popular when the term “unrequited love” already exists and is more accurate? I suspect it’s because it shifts the locus of responsibility. “Unrequited love” focuses on the person who has the crush. The feelings being discussed are the crushing person’s, thus the responsibility in on them to get over their crush and move on. “Friend zone”, on the other hand, focuses on the crush object’s choices. The phrase erases the agency of the crushing person. All blame for their pain is put on the crush object. “Unrequited love” is something that can happen to both sexes, but “friend zone” is a sexist concept that implies that women are solely responsible for men’s happiness, and not men themselves.”—Amanda Marcotte’s post on Feminism | Latest updates on Sulia (via veruca-assault)
As someone who is child free by choice its nice to read something like this.
I’ve never wanted to children, for as long as I can remember I’ve never wanted them. I never played with baby dolls or pretend to be mother. Im tired of trying to justify my choices to strangers, doctors, professionals and sometimes even friends